Push & Pull
When two behavior patterns collide, they create their own destiny.
Pattern One: Demand. Accuse. Complain. Take to the streets.
Pattern Two: Apologize. Concede. Surrender. Retreat.
It's not just a theory.
Partition happened because these two patterns danced together for years. One side pushed, the other yielded. Then they both learned their lessons: push harder next time, yield more next time.
What makes this dynamic so dangerous is how natural it feels to both sides.
The pushers feel righteous.
The yielders feel virtuous.
Partition didn't happen overnight. It happened in small moments of demand and surrender, repeated hundreds of times until a new reality was unavoidable.
When demands are met with surrender, they only grow larger and more frequent. The yielder thinks they're keeping peace, but they're actually training the demander to ask for more next time.
The pusher learns: push harder next time.
The yielder learns: yield more next time.
The outcome in such a situation is inevitable.
We see this everywhere - in politics, relationships, workplaces, families.
The first step to breaking free is recognizing the trap.
